What I've Learned

by - November 25, 2015

You're going to mess up. And you're allowed to mess up. Right now, I'm giving you permission to fuck up a million times in your life. But don't mess up on purpose, don't purposely steal or kill someone, I'm not taking the blame for that.
You can mess up by failing a test or missing an appointment on accident. You're allowed to make mistakes, don't beat yourself up over your mistakes. Don't hate yourself for your mistakes that you've made yesterday or years ago. I've heard someone once say that you are not the mistakes you've made. That your mistakes do not define you. So if you date someone and realise; wow this was a really bad decision, this was a huge mistake. That's okay. You are allowed to make mistakes, you're allowed to not like someone if you simply don't. And don't let anyone tell you that you can't make mistakes. 
I've made a ton of mistakes; I've said things I shouldn't have, I've done things I shouldn't have, I bought things I didn't need, I've broke things I wish I hadn't. 
I have failed tests, skipped school, taken 4 of sips of alcohol on different occasions, cheated on tests, been around people smoking, been at parties where there was underage drinking, said bad words, ran from police past curfew. 
But I am growing up and growing up is full of mistakes. I've made mistakes that have also turned out to be lessons. My opinions on topics have changed, I've been educated on ones that I didn't understand. I'm learning from my mistakes that I've made just like you probably are. And I'll probably still be learning from my mistakes in the future. I'll definitely make mistakes in the future too. I'm only 18, I've just turned into an adult. So I'm allowed some mistakes in my life, and we all know adults still make mistakes. 
But if somebody hurts you while making their mistake... Well that doesn't mean you have to forgive them. If someone you love pushes you against a wall, that is something they have to deal with and that is their mistake. You do not have to forgive them. Yes it'll be hard because you love that person, but that is their mistake, they need to learn from that bad mistake. 
And if you hurt someone while making a mistake, hopefully you will learn not to do that again. You'll know what to do, I'm not going to tell you what to do because that's something you need to learn. Your mistakes are yours to deal with just like mine are mine. 
But again, you are allowed to make mistakes. You are not your mistakes. Your mistakes do not define you. Learn from your mistakes. 

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